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Now a days to have easier
methods of getting married,
young generation register
themselves on various
matrimonial sites. These sites
enable to find match to the
needy people. It also saves the
time from going one place to
another. But before registering
onto these matrimonial sites
always check credentials of the
site. We tell you how; |
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Don’t be in a hurry to get
married to the subject person
you meet on line. It is
important to wait because time
will tell the truth |
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For choosing partner from the
matrimonial site first it is
important to find out that
whether that site is registered
or not |
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How many people are aware of
that site? That can be done
through by asking people or
friends |
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If
there is any perfect match then
find out that whether the
registration is done by right
person or not. It is not fraud |
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Then look for the place of
living, religion and education
qualification. |
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To find out the qualification it
is important to check the
certificates. Sometimes wrong
qualification or job description
is given. It is done to attract
the looker. |
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For job description find out the
place and period of working. It
can be done by giving call or
visiting the office by surprise.
If it is nearby then spend some
time to find out that whether
that person is working or not.
If all things match then call
the person over phone. Talking
to the person also gives the
idea. |
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There are a few reputed
Detective Agencies that offer
pre-marital check for a small
fee. This will help to establish
the authenticity of the subject
person to some extent. It is
important you specifically
instruct the agent to collect
information in respect of the
subject person’s Family history
(family tree). Its important to
hire a reputed, police approved
private detective. |
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It is a must to visit the
subject person at his/her home
in the company of his/her
parents/ relatives not once but
at least a number of times.
Invite the subject person over
to your family home as well. |
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If the person is NRI Download NRI
Guidelines |
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In such cases it is difficult to
find out the actual person. For
that proper research should be
done. If it is inter religion,
find out the type of culture and
living standard. Friends and
relatives can be good option for
enquiring |
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It is also important to check
the criminal records and health
condition. Otherwise later it
can affect adversely |
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Number of family members and
whether the person is staying at
own house or rented |
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If they say that they are going
to build then find out the area
of plot. Locality in which they
are living is good or not |
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Snares & Dangers (Based on
experience of some ill-fated
victims) |
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A matrimonial introduction site
capable of authenticating the
claims of its members does not
exist. (Irrespective of its
repute, huge membership or
international status |
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Beware of some members lying
about their past life, marital
status, age, height,
personality, health, social and
economic status. Members could
be criminals, HIV infected,
bankrupt etc |
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A very large number of well
educated 40 + women, from good
family background, who have been
mercilessly dumped by their
former spouses with young kids
are in dire and desperate need
of economical and emotional
support are in internet
matrimonial introduction sites.
Unfortunately, most of these
women fall victim to a very high
percentage of male members
lurking in these matrimonial
sites merely for sexual
gratification, sexual affair or
a one night stand. This is
because a person over 40,
envisaging a second marriage,
makes all moves and takes
decision in privacy without any
counsel of elders. It is
therefore imperative to follow
the same rules and every advice
given for first marriages. Even
so, more caution is required for
older people entering into
second marriages. |
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In the cyber world, the subject
person will always be in
courtship/dating several
prospective matches at any given
point in time, not only in India
but with members overseas as
well. Courtship may involve
sexual communication by typing
on line, web cam and telephone.
There is a real danger for these
secret courtships to continue
and develop even after the
subject matter makes a
commitment to marry you and such
courtships can continue well
after your marriage. It is not
easy for any one to know what is
going on in the dark portals of
the cyber world |
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There are gangs operating by
putting up the profile of a
woman gang member to lure a well
to do man into marriage merely
to gain the legal status of
‘wife’ then use the legal status
as modus operandi to gain
criminal access to property and
wealth. Alternatively file false
case to extort a huge out of
court settlement. |
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All these factors determine the
marriage or choosing from
matrimonial site. But what
counts the most is the
understanding and respect
between the two. If this is good
and honest then it can make
marriage bliss |
