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Now a days
to have
easier
methods of
getting
married,
young
generation
register
themselves
on various
matrimonial
sites. These
sites enable
to find
match to the
needy
people. It
also saves
the time
from going
one place to
another. But
before
registering
onto these
matrimonial
sites always
check
credentials
of the site.
We tell you
how; |
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Don’t be in a hurry to
get married to the
subject person you meet
on line. It is important
to wait because time
will tell the truth |
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For choosing partner
from the matrimonial
site first it is
important to find out
that whether that site
is registered or not |
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How many people are
aware of that site? That
can be done through by
asking people or friends |
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If there is any perfect
match then find out that
whether the registration
is done by right person
or not. It is not fraud |
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Then look for the place
of living, religion and
education qualification. |
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To find out the
qualification it is
important to check the
certificates. Sometimes
wrong qualification or
job description is
given. It is done to
attract the looker. |
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For job description find
out the place and period
of working. It can be
done by giving call or
visiting the office by
surprise. If it is
nearby then spend some
time to find out that
whether that person is
working or not. If all
things match then call
the person over phone.
Talking to the person
also gives the idea.
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There
are a few reputed
Detective Agencies that
offer pre-marital check
for a small fee. This
will help to establish
the authenticity of the
subject person to some
extent. It is important
you specifically
instruct the agent to
collect information in
respect of the subject
person’s Family history
(family tree). Its
important to hire a
reputed, police approved
private detective.
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It is a must to visit
the subject person at
his/her home in the
company of his/her
parents/ relatives not
once but at least a
number of times. Invite
the subject person over
to your family home as
well. |
 If
the person is NRI |
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In such cases it is
difficult to find out
the actual person. For
that proper research
should be done. If it is
inter religion, find out
the type of culture and
living standard. Friends
and relatives can be
good option for
enquiring |
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It is also important to
check the criminal
records and health
condition. Otherwise
later it can affect
adversely |
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Number of family members
and whether the person
is staying at own house
or rented |
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If they say that they
are going to build then
find out the area of
plot. Locality in which
they are living is good
or not |
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Snares
& Dangers (Based on
experience of some
ill-fated victims)
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A matrimonial introduction site capable of authenticating the claims of its members does not exist. (Irrespective of its repute, huge membership or international status |
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Beware of some members
lying about their past
life, marital status,
age, height,
personality, health,
social and economic
status. Members could be
criminals, HIV infected,
bankrupt etc |
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A very large number of
well educated 40 +
women, from good family
background, who have
been mercilessly dumped
by their former spouses
with young kids are in
dire and desperate need
of economical and
emotional support are in
internet matrimonial
introduction sites.
Unfortunately, most of
these women fall victim
to a very high
percentage of male
members lurking in these
matrimonial sites merely
for sexual
gratification, sexual
affair or a one night
stand. This is because a
person over 40,
envisaging a second
marriage, makes all
moves and takes decision
in privacy without any
counsel of elders. It is
therefore imperative to
follow the same rules
and every advice given
for first marriages.
Even so, more caution is
required for older
people entering into
second marriages. |
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In the cyber world, the
subject person will
always be in
courtship/dating several
prospective matches at
any given point in time,
not only in India but
with members overseas as
well. Courtship may
involve sexual
communication by typing
on line, web cam and
telephone. There is a
real danger for these
secret courtships to
continue and develop
even after the subject
matter makes a
commitment to marry you
and such courtships can
continue well after your
marriage. It is not easy
for any one to know what
is going on in the dark
portals of the cyber
world |
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There are gangs
operating by putting up
the profile of a woman
gang member to lure a
well to do man into
marriage merely to gain
the legal status of
‘wife’ then use the
legal status as modus
operandi to gain
criminal access to
property and wealth.
Alternatively file false
case to extort a huge
out of court settlement. |
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All these factors
determine the marriage
or choosing from
matrimonial site. But
what counts the most is
the understanding and
respect between the two.
If this is good and
honest then it can make
marriage bliss |
